Friday, December 14, 2012

Now that I have introduced a brief summary of my truth it's time to get to the "business" as one might say. This week I would like to discuss woman who tend to lower their standards to accommodate a man. We as women need to get it together, if not for ourselves but for the sake of these future lawyers, doctors, and politicians we are raising. Some may disagree with what I am about to say, but this is my area where I am free to speak and express how I feel. It is extremely difficult for me to grasp why some ladies, and I am good friends with some, allow themselves to be involved with an individual who, in lack of better words, does not have that privilege or has not worked for that privilege to be blessed with some of the things we bless that person with. Time is something that is extremely sacred and special that not every individual, man, or human being need it wasted on them, tough but true. I have met woman whom are very quite successful in their lives, but the bs to the side and crunched down and have accomplished so much but then will turn around and allow someone, a man, to walk in and they loose complete control and allow them to tear it all down in half the time it took them to put it up. I have to be honest I too am guilty of this completely. You also have the females that are guilty of accepting whatever bs a man dishes out just for the pleasure of wanting to be in whatever relationship they might have going on. My message to my ladies is don't allow yourself to be weak minded for a man, or whomever, have control of your life, decisions, and destiny. When looking to put your heart, faith, and trust in someone let it be a partnership. A partnership meaning a two way street, give as much that is given, a 50/50 commitment in every single aspect. Do not lower who you are as a person/individual for anyone, or being rather find someone that is at the same level as yourself, rather it be you work together to bring each other up, but it should never be one lowering for another because that will never work, trust me I know. We all want love or to be in love and that is something that is meant to happen for everyone, it will feel so much real and better when it is done wholly and real.

Friday, December 7, 2012

I'm going to first start of by introducing and giving a brief summary of my walk and truth. Newly single mother of three children under the age of 6, working full time and in nursing school. Hench that I continue to say newly single mother, I was with my children's father for 8 years, married to him for 2.5 before I couldn't handle it any longer. I am a walking, living survivor of domestic violence, verbally and physically. Endured 5 too long years of verbal abuse that progressively turned physical within months, not knowing when it was going to go too far. I sit back now and think of how foolish I was thinking that every fight, punch, or slap would be the last time, and then it happened right back again. I was manipulated into thinking it was my fault that I would sometimes begin to ask myself the question of what am I doing wrong that he continues to do this to me, started not feeling pretty enough because it was always woman after woman with him. I sometimes would look at my babies and would dream of that perfect life for them, the life where their mother and father was so in love and we were all happy just being together, then reality would hit me, literally, knowing that dream was a long leap unless if I removed myself and them from this situation.
         As woman we are born with the ability to always want to make things better, fix things, even if it took from us, we always put others before us especially when we become mothers, I was putting the dream of having a family unit before my safety, health, and stability. One day I woke up and told myself I couldn't do this any more, I couldn't be that weak vulnerable little girl who took everything that was thrown at her, literally and figuratively. I just couldn't handle it anymore, either I had to go or he had to go, and the answer was him. I have kept that momentum and have not looked back since, filed for divorce and slowly picked the pieces to my life back up to glue it back together, polish it, and place it up for display for other women who are or was in the same predicament as myself. I am here to tell you it can be done, that man or the demon cannot/will not have power over your destiny only if you allow it. It's not easy but it is possible, you are a precious gem that was placed here to do great and wonderful things, and being a coward's punching bag is not one of them.  

Thursday, December 6, 2012

Ladies I want to help to be that glue that piece us together and lift each other up rather then tearing down on another. I am here to express my own personal feelings about all the things, and experiences in our life that it takes to make us victorious woman. As a newly single mother of three, who has been through some greatest highs and lowest lows I am spilling my thoughts, feelings, and learning wisdom on us as woman as whole, Being when it comes to building our success, raising our children(whether it be on your own or with your significant other), friendships, relationships, and yes ladies those wonderful four letter words LOVE.
I will update weekly on advise, insights, and stories just the simple things to help motivate and move the soul and get the mind to thinking and expanding to uplift and do great things. I love being a woman and everything about inner self. So welcome to Ladies, Ladies, Ladies. Your feedback and questions are always welcome.